Post marriage depression- The untreated and ignored bitter reality

Life teaches you many things. The world is not that good. We all are balloons full of feelings in the world of pins. Here I will talk about marriage and its consequences. When a girl is about to marry she becomes very excited about having a married life, having a new family and many more things. But after marriage the entire scenario changes. The feeling of having the world upside down is a feeling every woman goes through the initial days of marriage. Slowly and gradually she starts getting very strange bundle of feelings. The feeling of worthlessness, feeling of being trapped, feeling of loveless and thankless bond. This brings post marriage depression which is the most untreated and ignored problem. Many women reading this blog can relate with it easily. But when you talk about it they call you feminist.  

A girl who used to be intelligent and cheerful is now irritable, sad and angry because she feels loss of space, loss of love, loss of identity and loss of importance and doesn’t know how to express it.  I think she could not understand that whatever is happening in her life is right or wrong. This confusion goes on and then she becomes mother. Being mother is the best feeling one can ever have. Happiness has no bound when you see your baby in your arms. But kids come with a bunch of responsibilities. And family has same amount of expectation from her. Family members consider you their unpaid maid. This may sound rude to many but it is the bitter and unspoken truth. No matter what so ever she does, she cannot change their mind. Her in-laws are entitle to her services because she is married to their son.

Life becomes a battle if you are a working mother living with your husband’s family. Wherein you are at constant guilt at work for not able to fulfill society’s expectation, taking care of baby, serving in-laws, keeping the house spick & span and you are also at constant guilt at work for not being productive enough due to stress that you carry from home. The double guilt leads you to loss of belief on yourself. Feelings of guilt, uselessness and distrust are different indications of depression.

Ladies, never compromise on yourself and your health. Do not live like a maid in your own house under the people who has no humanity left. Be a changed person who can make her own decision. Never let yourself go into depression because depression can never be treated completely. 

Marriage is a society controlled institution and post-marriage depression is a by-product. So love yourself and give your self-priority too. Because if you do not no one else will.